“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” - Dr. Stephen Covey.
Words can often get in the way. Sometimes we use too many words, or the wrong words. Sometimes we might even use words as a weapon. In any relationship, communication is key. But have you ever hit a wall with someone when they’re just not hearing you? When used wisely, words can heal and inspire, but when your words are not being received well, they can create more harm than good.
In life, your work is to express yourself kindly, constructively and compassionately and then step back and give space and silence to absorb. Know that you have nothing else to prove because, at some point, people just shut down and can no longer hear. When you’ve reached that point, it’s best to pull back your energy and give space and silence for others to process what you have said.
Through that silence people are better able to find their own way with it. Silence tells others how you are feeling, where you stand on an issue, and how tolerant and understanding you will be moving forward.
Silence is the greatest teacher. If you want someone to hear you, stop talking and put on your listening ears! Your silence will tell them everything they need to know.
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